The Forum of Possibility

This forum was introduced to me by Ying and June :-)
I think everyone has their fair share of inauthenticity in which they try to cover, or they are unaware of it; so do I, in terms of relationships with family, friends, bgr...

Basically, ask yourself: what are the areas that you have a loss of power and freedom of full self-expression; what are your inauthenticity that you tried to hide or cover up; what are the impacts (on your relationship); what are the new possibilities you wish to invent for yourself and your life?

Some interesting concepts from the forum...

Already Always Listening
Most of the time, our approach to ourselves, our circumstances, and others is often filtered and obsured by pre-existing notions and ideas, by our upbringing, our values, our past experiences.

An awareness of these filters and a recognition of the striking limits that they impose, allows for a refreshing freedom.

The Hidden Power of Context
The hidden contexts from which we live determine what we see and what we don't see; what we consider and what we fail to notice; what we are able to do and what seems beyond our reach. All behaviour - all ways of being and acting - are correlated to the contexts from which we live our lives.

When these contexts become apparent and known, we begin to see the unwitting process by which they were assembled and the degree to which they govern our everyday life.

The Vicious Cycle
It is human tendency to collapse what happened with the story we tell about what happened. The story we tell ourselves becomes the way it is, the reality we know.

When we are able to separate what happened from our story or interpretation, we discover that much of what we considered already determined, given and fixed, may not be that way.

The Payoff and the Cost
Racket is defined as an unproductive way of being and acting that includes a complaint that something shouldn't be the way it is.

By recognizing this pattern, its costs, and how we have been keeping the pattern in place, we have the choice to interrupt the cycle and discover new ways of interacting that lead to new levels of happiness, satisfaction and fulfilment.

The Illusion of Someday
The view of possibility has an immediate and powerful impact on who we are, how we live our lives, and how we see things - NOW, in the present.

The Myth of Is, Because, and I
Explore the nature of what we think of as reality, which includes an objective world that exists independent of us, where cause and effect are key operative factors; where I, as an identity, is a collection of characteristics, attributes, and experiences from the past.

Distinguishing: Opening New Worlds
To distinguish something means to take something from an undifferentiated background and bring it to the foreground. Drawing distinctions gives us a facilty to navigate in areas that were previously inaccessable.

Freedom from Anxiety
Often, we allow our fears and anxieties to stop us, to determine how much we will risk, and to limit the range in which we live.

When we see that our relationship to our anxieties and fears inadvertently gives them as life of their own, something else becomes possible.

How Identities get Constructed
The process began in childhood, as we gradually adopted ways of being and acting to deal successfully with things that didn't go the way we thought they should. By adulthood, we have assembled a set of practices and approaches, attributes and characteristics, that seem to give us a certain measure of success - that make up our personality, our style, who we consider ourselves to be.

When we begin to see that our identity was put together in response to something that we had determined shouldn't be, the result is a new freedom in saying who we are.

The Pervasive Influence of the Past
What we see as possible, and what we are working towards, is essentially a more, better, or different version of the past.

Putting the past to where it belong, in the past. We begin to design our lives as a free and authentic expression, from what is possible, rather than what has been.

Change vs Transformation
Change is essentially a comparison to something that previously existed. Change is past-based. Transformation on the other hand, is an act of bringing forth or inventing. It is something created, and is inherently expansive and indefinite.

Language as an Access to Power
Language is commonly thought of as a bridge to the world. We learn language implies that first there is a world. We seldom, if ever, consider that language may in fact be what brings the world into being.

Listening and speaking takes on a new dimension and expected power, they become instruments of creation.

The Nature of Choice
One commonly held view regards choice as merely reacting to, or selecting among the existing options.

We explore choice as a profoundly human ability to create. We find ourselves able to choose , to have a say about who we are and who we will be.

Access to Being Extraordinary
Everyday we are presented with the opportunity either to live a business-as-usual life, or to create something beyond who we've been and what we know.

We explore the opportunity we have to express ourselves individually and fully, to set aside current standards, to question firmly held assumptions, to be at ease no matter what the circumstance, and to break and reinvent the mold.